Ban Baggy Pants? My thoughts...

An Atlanta city councilman is proposing a ban on baggy pants. It would be an amendment to the indecency laws. What do you think about this? No one hates that look more than I do! It is ridiculous. One person called it racial profiling, but I have seen kids of all colors wearing the pants that way. By the way, the ban would also include showing the strap of a thong or wearing jogging bras in public unless they are covered by a shirt.

Now how do you feel about it? As much as I hate that baggy pant thing, I am adamantly opposed to government getting involved in this issue! Personally, I think this should be addressed at home. The government has its hands in my business enough already. I am still mad that they force me to wear a seat belt.

Parents need to step up and be the parent. Tell the kids they are not going out of the house looking like that, and that you don’t care who dresses like that! And it is not just the baggy pants. Look at teen girls and what do you see? Many of them dress like prostitutes. I hate the thong sticking out of the pants—not sure why any one wears those uncomfortable things anyway. The tops are cut low and skin tight. Short shorts have wording written on them across the seat. What is the purpose of that except to make boys watch their butts as they walk. Trust me, boys do that anyway—you do not have to advertise.

The same parents that allow their children to dress like that are surprised when they find out their little angel is sexually active. Why? They have been advertising their availability for a long time. Or they cannot understand why their son is now showing them disrespect. Wake up--how your child dresses is how they will act.

C’mon parents. Stop letting our children dress like thugs and prostitutes! Do your job so the government does do it for you.

It is criminal what is happening to these grandparents

I was invited to speak at a support group for grandmothers who are raising their grandchildren. What a wonderful group of ladies!! I had such a good time meeting and sharing with them.

What strikes me is the inequity in the system where a perfect stranger can take a child in a foster home environmnet and they get a stipend from the state. A grandparent gets nothing from the state. Some counties (God bless them) are doing a little to help.

But picture this for a moment:

You are retired or close to retirement and you have all these plans to paint or travel or learn to quilt. You have carefully saved and planned for your future. As you look forward you know you will have to be careful, but you can make on what you have coming in and not be a burden to anyone in your old age. That makes you feel proud.

One night you get a phone call from DFACS to either come and pick up your grandchild or he will be put into the system and you could lose contact with him completely. What do you do? Of course, you drop what you are doing and go get him and bring him home with you. Naturally you think this is for a few days or weeks at the most.

Time stretches as time is wont to do and gradually you realize that you are now the parent, not the grandparent and that scenario is unlikely to change! Your finances are being drained. Your child is on drugs and not able to care for her child and does not contribute to his support.

You have all this sorrow for your child, anger at your child, love for your grandchild, wishing you could have your life back, guilt over feeling like that, and now you are wondering how your money can stretch because this responsibility was not factored into you life equation ahead of time.

How would you feel? Wouldn't you want a little financial help? Or a place of respite care where you could take him for a few hours so you could shop or clean the refrigerator?

We need to step up and call on our legislators to answer this pressing need. Ah, but you say, it is only a few families so affected. Wrong! Grandparents raising grandchildren is one of the fastest growing parenting populations in this country. And they are having a really hard time.

Step up and call your congressman--please help these wonderful, devoted people.

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Too many overweight, unhealthy kids!

Childhood obesity is a growing and very serious health issue in this country. What we used to call adult onset diabetes is now called Type 2 because they are finding it in so many children. Our kids are developing coronary artery disease at an early age as well as many other health problems.

As parents we always want our children to have more and do better than ourselves. This is an area where we are definitely not making the grade on that score.

Why are kids increasingly obese? I have several ideas, based on reading and observation:
Ø Fewer family meals, where mom cooks a balanced meal and everyone gathers at the table to eat and share what happened in their day.
Ø More fast food to go with our busy lifestyles
Ø Parents teaching bad eating and exercise habits to kids—very often overweight adults have overweight kids
Ø Using food as an incentive or reward or comfort
Ø Too much time spent in front of the TV, the computer, the video game, etc.
Ø Not enough time spent outside in physical play

What can parents do?
Ø Limit time in front of a screen of any kind
Ø Make your child go outside and play everyday for a little while—even 30 minutes will help
Ø Encourage the schools to bring back PE where it has been eliminated
Ø Encourage your child to find an activity that they enjoy—baseball, softball, karate, running, basketball, football, soccer, fencing, hiking—Scouting, swimming—there are so many to choose from. Surely your child will like something. If they like band, get them in a marching band. Or just get out with them and talk a walk together.
Ø Bring back family meal times—as many times a week as you can manage it
Ø Lead by example—lose weight yourself. Put the whole family on a diet if necessary
Ø Lead by example--get out and walk or bike with your kids, with friends, or by yourself. Show them that exercise can be fun. One of my kids enjoyed running with me. That was our time to talk and bond. It was great fun for both of us.
Ø Lead by example—eat right. Make healthy food choices for yourself and your kids. Keep fruit in a cooler in the car for games and outings instead of snacks full of empty calories. Drink water and fruit drinks and milk instead of sodas.
Ø Never use food as an incentive or reward or comfort. You are just building up intrinsic habits that follow into adulthood.

Your children are your legacy. Help keep them healthy—protect them in this way as strongly as you do from predators or anything else that can harm them.