The question on everyone's mind is "Why?" What in the world were they thinking? According to one schoolmate, possibly the need for unconditional love was the reason. Why do these teens feel like that is lacking in their lives? Where the heck are the parents?
If these kids think a baby is going to make their lives better, they need to think again!
- Walking the floor in the middle of the night with a colicy baby is not feeling loved.
- Watching other friends going out on dates and parties and being kids will be very hard while they are home with a baby.
- It is hard to do homework with a baby to look after (hoepfully they will still go to school).
- Boys that age are only going to want to date them for one reason--it is obvious they put out and that is what the boys will want. It will be very hard for them to find a guy who will be interested in a serious relationship.
- Their figures are blown to all heck. Do they realize how hard it is to lose baby weight?
We parents need to see this as a wake up call to reassess our relationships with our children, especially our teens. Do they know we love them unconditionally? Do they know we are their greatest cheerleader?
Remember when you correct your child that it is important to separate the transgression from the person. Never tell them they are bad or useless. Never withhold your love as a punishment. Every day tell them how much you love them. Talk to them about sex and parenting. It is okay if you tell them that parenting is hard--it is!
Talk to your kids about the children in MA that are having babies. Find other things in the news affecting or referring to teens and discuss those. A family with an open dialogue is less likely to have a problem like the families in Gloucester are facing.
So go--give your children a big hug and tell them how grateful you are that they are in your life!
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